Male Stigmas in Sag Harbor
One of the biggest dilemmas in Sag Harbor is the pressure in which the boys felt to act a certain way. Throughout the novel, Benji and his friends are constantly trying to figure out the “coolest” way they can behave around each other. Even when no one directly says the rules out loud, they are still there. The boys know that if they act too emotional, awkward, or too different, they will be judged. This dilemma connects to a lot of the other male-centered books we have read because many of the male characters are shaped by unspoken rules they feel obligated to follow. Growing up with these rules around me, I understand that there are a lot of expectations that come with masculinity. Most people have heard phrases like “real men don’t cry” or “boys shouldn’t show their emotions.” Sag Harbor shows how damaging those ideas can be, especially for young boys who are still figuring out who they are. Benji often feels like he has to act confident, eve...